D I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition
Organic water and oil based lubricants are suitable for use with glass, metal vibrator , and silicone sex toys – they also nourish the skin, alleviating any vaginal dryness or discomfort from vaginal tightness. This elegant metal toy has a lot to offer for both cis and trans guys, says Richards. “For myself and my other vulva-having partners, curved metal wand toys are almost universally a guaranteed orgasm,” he says.
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The Magic Wand has been a mainstay for over 50 years, and now there’s a more convenient cordless version. The design is so recognizable and iconic that people have even made merch for it. “It’s been referred to as the Cadillac of Vibrators — and with good reason,” said Finn. He thoroughly enjoyed the sensation of the oscillation, got hard quickly, and had powerful orgasms. Juna Xu is a Sydney-based journalist and news.com.au checkout contributor with over nine years of experience working across the Australian media landscape.
“It is very soft and I love how it’s curved to fit,” one reviewer on the Dame website wrote. “This is my first vibrator so I would say it is beginner-friendly and works well.” Last but not least, Love Triangle was the smallest and by far most discreet of the various Satisfyer toys I tried out. Whisper quiet, it’s another air pulsing, pressure wave toy that stimulates your clitoris (or nipples, follow your heart!) along with a subtle vibration function. It’s again not necessarily the tiniest and most intuitive to place for hands-free play but is easily the MVP for travel — coming with a sweet little cap to store it cleanly and quietly on-the-go.
At $55, it’s half the price as the currently-unavailable Shegasm 5 Star Rabbit we previously recommended for internal/external stimulation, although it lacks the thumping mechanism that made the 5 Star Rabbit model a standout. The Sonnet is a fine toy, but our tester preferred the 5 Star Rabbit overall. The 5 Star Rabbit is also covered by a longer warranty (five years versus the Sonnet’s one). The presence of possibly toxic chemicals in sex toys has been a source of significant concern in the sex-toy-aficionado community. Sex toys are not well researched—beyond this study by the Swedish Chemicals Agency—or regulated by any consumer-safety agencies.
For example, you may want a small vibrator if you plan on using it during penetrative sex, and any vibe you’ll be using anally should have a flared base so it doesn’t get lost inside you. We decided not to test the original Smile Makers’s The Billionaire because it required one AA battery for four hours of use. The redesigned version has a rechargeable battery, but costs $20 more than the Satisfyer Purple Pleasure, and is covered by a lesser warranty. We tried the 6, which is similar in shape and size to a fountain pen. Unfortunately, we found the toy’s vibrations to be a bit buzzy compared to those of the rumbly and similarly shaped We-Vibe Tango (see below). And the Ultra Power Bullet 6’s handle vibrates to an unpleasant degree.
These are our worthy winners at a glance, but read on for our detailed reviews. With curves in all the right places, 10 vibration settings, medical grade silicone, and a fully waterproof design, it will completely rock your world. These can be vibrating or non-vibrating toys that stimulate the nerve endings inside your anus.
So we spoke with experts and tested some for ourselves to find the best wand vibrators around. This dual-action couples massager is so high-tech, it’s as if it were sent to us from the year 3000 by benevolent, sex-savvy innovators who have totally nailed the whole simultaneous orgasm thing. The Duo can pleasure both partners at once with its two motors, multiple vibrating patterns and a wireless remote that helps operate the toy by coordinating with the user’s hand movements. Check out the Lelo site for detailed instructions on how to get the most pleasure out of the massager. It uses built-in sensors to see how your body responds to it in real time, and offers insight on what kind of stimulation works best for your sexual pleasure via a companion app.
I prefer the Medium, which is a nice weight (5.5 ounces) and size (about 8 inches long). It’s comfortable to hold for longer periods of time, while its slimmer shape makes it ideal for using with a partner. But if you’re looking for something more powerful, a Large option is also available. Wyatt suggests trying the Ohnut to address pelvic pain that is caused by penetration.